Even if you think that you are acting in the best interest of the child, do not force him to do things….
Each parent, regardless of whether he brings the child only a few years or a lifetime, makes a lot of conclusions, and sets certain rules of education, reports Rus.Media.
Many think it is necessary and even mandatory rigor in education by parents (“Do as I say! I know better!”).
But to force a child to do some things you just can’t if you don’t want to have a negative impact on his psyche or health.
Even if you think that you are acting in the best interest of the child, not force him to do the following things:
Including the little things (“Tell him I’m not!”). And not just because lying is not good at all. If your child is going to treat lies as something ordinary and will lie to other people, then sooner or later he will lie to you too. And you don’t even understand because acting with experience honed to perfection.
2. Is when baby is not hungry.
So, there are norms that pediatricians recommend to feed the baby a certain age. But these norms are not as great as it seems the most caring mothers. And needless to say that all children are different from each other. And even the same child at different ages eat differently, more, less willingly. Our body is designed so that it warns us about when we should eat and when to drink. To teach a child to correctly recognize these signals is the task of a parent, want to have a healthy baby, not itihi in his cereal or soup at any cost.
3. To be who a child is.
If your child, say, shy, suck it up and take it like that. Don’t force it to be (or seem) communicative, if by nature he is disgusted, or if the child does not suffer from their shyness. The same goes for overly active, active, noisy children. Yes, it’s hard, but let it be so, what is their nature. And let your child know that you love him for who he is, not for their idea of what it should be.
4. To apologize for some unknown reason.
I hear all the time, like on the Playground shouting some sort of mommy: “say you sorry!”. And the kid obediently obeys, not having the slightest idea what he’s sorry and who needs it. An apology is only required, but obscure ritual, which don’t have no kindness, no tact, no regrets. So before you demand an apology, even bother to briefly explain to the kid what exactly he needs to apologize.
5. To shake hands with strangers.
Take them sweets, toys or money. Don’t know, maybe it was only my paranoia, but I don’t like when children begin to be drawn into intimate conversations total strangers or treat them with candy. Therefore, the rule of little red riding hood: “don’t talk to strangers!” I plant the child in early childhood.
6. To be friends with someone who they don’t like.
Even if you’re best friends with the mother of another child, this does not mean that your own child should be friends with this family. And endure when teasing him, break his toys or pull hair just because you don’t want to quarrel with the mother of the offender. Make friends for yourself, go shopping together and the movies, drink tea together, and the child grant to be friends with whomever he wants.
7. To dramatically change their habits.
No matter whether we are talking about how to unsubscribe from a bottle, sleeping in a separate bed or to stop sucking a pacifier. In order to change the baby needs to “Mature”. The transition from the old to the new should be smooth and gradual.
8. To put a child on a strict diet to get to fast or to punish the food.
Yes, there are children with excess weight, but hardly because of this you should always refuse them candy. It is impossible to make a cult out of food and to add, diet. Forbidden fruit is always sweet. If you want to control or restrict some products that are harmful to a child and then not keep them at home, avoid the temptation to once again, explain to your child the principles by which he needed to feed, but not categorically forbid these products, unless, of course, we are not talking about severe cases of allergies.
9. To sleep where he is not comfortable.
When I was little, I hated to stay the night at grandma’s, despite my love for her. After half an hour I desperately wanted to go home, the bed seemed uncomfortable, the decor is unusual, I even hate to use someone else’s bathroom, I felt useless and left out. If your child is experiencing similar feelings, it is not necessary to force him to spend the night in an unfamiliar place. Of course, sometimes parents just need to have a free evening, but instead of sending her away child, better ask grandma or another adult to spend the night at your house.
10. To do what they do badly.
I urge you to educate people, drops his hands at the slightest failure, but if your child after months of training, still can not stand on skates, but still hates the process, then it might be worth to replace figure skating at the school of music, as you would not want to be a mom and a figure skater champion. Endless failures in raising the child, the complex of a loser. Conversely, the least successful will inspire him to further exploits and hard work. Better to be a good handbase than a bad player, even if the second sport is much more prestigious than the first. Let the child make a choice.
In any case, remember that your child is not only YOUR child, but also an independent little person. The sooner the child learns to make decisions himself, the sooner he will learn to take responsibility for their actions