Positive psychology says: good fortune to attract to his side. How to make Nam more often carried? Explains psychologist Philip Gabie, author of “in Praise of luck.”
Luck is the object of desire, and the subject of superstitions. So, it is believed that there are two types of the lucky ones: those who “collect” favorable cases simply because they were born under a lucky star, and those to whom the gift fell from the sky (lottery winnings, fateful meeting, the inexplicable, the cure…), reports Rus.Media.
Psychologist Philip Gabie believes that this postulate needs to be supplemented, otherwise we will remain in the framework of magic and fatalism. “Indeed, random luck occurs, but there is another kind of luck that can “push” and cultivate, and such a success is available to all”.
This approach is consistent with the views of Richard Wiseman (Richard Wiseman), a psychologist from the British Hertfordshire University, an expert on “success factors”*. Study hundreds of happy people allowed him to establish that there are two kinds of luck: passive (win the Lotto) and psychological, which occurs as a result of arbitrary decisions, the formulation of a personal position. His other discovery is that the luck of the second kind may be resumed, and why the psychologist calls it “lasting luck”.
He and the other kind of luck has five constituents, says Weisman: timely meeting (the right person at the right time), the key information is caught by the way, openness (the ability to purchase positive experiences), the unexpected request and the fateful event that violate the habitual course of life.
“To extend good luck, — says Philip Gabie, you need to prepare the soil in which the grain opportunities to develop and strengthen”. This is possible only if we can learn the following four settings.
1. To put the problem
“To generator luck is earned, it needs to be programmed and adjusted depending on the chosen direction, — says the psychologist. — Then he will give meaning to the events that happen to us, and “generate” good luck: it is our goals that ensure the operation of the generator will allow us to find it”.
Canadian psychologist albert bandura, known for his concept of self-efficacy, wrote almost 30 years ago: “Our human nature is partly guided by the choices of personal values and standards that we do. Mechanisms of what we see our value as a person, partly determine the impact of our meetings at the direction of our social development.” So, if not in advance clear intentions, and no long good luck. This does not mean that we should start with detailed planning of the project. Rather, it is to identify their desires, to feel what direction I would like to develop their lives, how to invest in it sense.
Positive intention is the quintessence of the vital desires, to determine them, you need to understand what gives us a sense of flourishing that could be the driving force of all life. “What speaks in me? I need what I want?” These are the questions that will form the basis of our path to success. Then everyone will have to specify your expectations, give flesh to their intentions: to keep a journal, to education, to meet with those whose desires are similar to ours.
2. To open to the world
It means to be ready to see new, possible to perceive what is happening around us. “This is a common setting for care and constant vigilance that allows us to capture interesting information, instantly see the prospect of a new acquaintance, to direct energy in a particular direction.
Thus we repeatedly increase our chances, regardless, do we consider ourselves involved in the emergence of these opportunities or not.” Making from time to time pause to disconnect, we allow to run our intuition and free from the power of opponents of a good — luck routine and automatic way of thinking.
3. Use failure
“The fortunate are not immune from the blows of fate or an unexpected trouble, but they are able to effectively and with long term result to work through our failures — continues psychologist. Not surrendering to the will of anger, sadness or rancor, they are looking for the reasons of failure, find the correct assessment, given the circumstances, and, finally, expose the failure of the “secondary processing”. For a start, they separated the accidental or natural from what they do (even partly) responsible. “They may also, paradoxically, to reveal the heart of his failure, embryos of good luck, because almost always could be worse.”
Finally, they ask the only relevant in this situation the question: what can I learn from this trouble? Or, in other words, how and under what conditions I can turn it into something positive? How do I now proceed to wrap it in their favor? What I learned from this event? How can I use it as a way to meet new people, gain new information, discover new worlds?
The last stage of “processing” becomes “restart” generator chance, so he was able now to open new doors, to find other ways. A new business, to renew relations with old friends, make and send invitations, collect information on the exciting topic… we Each have to find a way to let a fresh breeze in his world and add to your luck new ingredients as if they were not called — a timely meeting, key information new world, an unexpected request…
4. To be a mascot for other
“Success is different,” says Philip Gabie. The wider our network of personal contacts, the more those with whom we are familiar, the greater the likelihood that we would happen to be a happy occasion. Richard Wiseman adds that happy people “tend to hope that their relationships with others will be fruitful.” Provided, of course, that in relationships, we show generosity and attention to another and provide services free of charge, otherwise experience are reduced to selfish and self-centered recharge contacts. That’s why in addition to relations as such we need the energy of giving yourself otherwise, the basis for the long luck lay not succeed. This means that we must become for the other talismans to bring them good luck.
“Love, knowledge and luck have something in common: they are designed to continuously circulate in the community, to connect people and create human values, — says the psychologist. — To bring good luck to others enough to give them time and attention, be ready to listen to them. To inform the other person important information to reveal to him a new field of opportunities, but also to be close in case of failure, to help to pay her the chance to change for the better.” Showing sympathy and solidarity, we not only provide a supply of future success, but also fill life with meaning and depth, refuting the infamous Maxim “Man is a wolf”.